Gentowa

Right upbringing have to cultivate children with suitable courage and ability to determine absolutely, but only so much how requisites and interests claim it. We have to take care about it : that policy of child was not with repugnant with socially exigenci and also with socially moral. Those positive properties can be cultivate on trusts between him and his parent. We can successfully bring up to separateness only child with unharmed nervous system. Well bring up means to bring up at first yourself .

When we want to upbring the child to separateness we make use of ambitions of this child to known something,also of his requirement situation, and inclination to imitation and his labour of separateness. Therefore each parent should permit to child more separateness, Everything,what he can make or he is able to do, should make alone. Sources of aspiration to separateness is in good feeling of self-confidence.You can persuade the child , that he knows it.

Source of aspiration independence healthy feeling of self-confidence, belief of child, that he knows it and his effort to try it; when he is successful it incfeases his self-confidence. Mainly each new success makes him braver and craving for independent action without help provided by parents. Parents can support self-assurance of child if they express their acknowledgement, admiration and praise.

Child shoud teach how to eat, put on, wash and adopt needed hygienic habits as soon as is possible. Patient mother can show him,how to do it. Regular showing of various and complicated movements, that the child has to make, increases his facilities and widens his skills. Already at the toddlers age they get tactile practice by touchting things.This practice is very important for its orientation.

Tendency to imitate helps the child discuss many manners of behaviour, habits and specialties of parents, sibs or other people, who the child is coming in contact with. On the basis of its efforts to be independent the child would like to do things that it couldn´t do before.

Playing is very important in life of child. As the child behaves in the free playing, so it will behave latter in work. The child should be lead to independence also during playing with it. We should also tend his creativity.

Toy for child has to be safe, because of protection from hurt.Toy also has to be elegantly, nice and adapted to help in upbringing. Upbringing to separateness is upbringing to courage and daring. Courage belongs to valued and helpful personal properties.

We have to lead the child from the game to the slow feed work. At first we have to show the child that the work is as the game and than give the child the work which is adequate and the child can do it. We can do also the severe work with the child as similarity of the game. At the same time we can take the child the sense of discipline, cleanness and also we lead him to the individual work. Upbringing to work means to form the right relationship to work for child. Work which is confered to child it mustn’t libel his initiative, but it has to supports separateness of his actions. Source of self-confidence is successful action and encompassment of estimate work. Because of it we have to keep for the child only easy responsibilities which the child can make successfully. Dynamic and intelligent children can uncharge their superfluos energy

with woek and also they can learn something new and useful. Child is interested in the thing which he do but he is also interested about results of acivities. Therefore when we give the work to the child we have to explain the purpose of this work or activity. At first we have to give the child only small amount of work and very easy activities which he have to do in a short time. When we give him harder operation we have to show him the way of this advance. We have to watch at him to the finish.

We show the child the outside world at the work, because of this the children have a strong desire to learn new things. Through the senses they learn about the environment in which they live.They determine by the touching the size and shape of objects. Very important work has the muscular sense. This muscular sense signalizes each movement, position and also the way of all parts of the body which relate with movement. Those muscular senses signalize to encephalic centre.

Activity of children has to be miscellaneous and also has to change. The childs organism develops and therefore it hates the violent stress. Unvaried and heavy work is very dangerous for development of child. The tools, with which the children work, have to be adequate for age of child and it mustn’t be very hard.

We have to get single clothes for children who already know get dressed.

At upbringing of child to separateness and self-education only the love and the help come short of. Love, which bring up safety for the child, means work and also the exert. This work and exert is not only with the child but also with yourself.

Upbringing to separateness non-means, that the child makes what he want. The upbringing has to be the firm system and authority. The child have to subordinate to the authority of his parents and because of subordination the child adoptates the elements of separateness and discipline. Mission of parent’s upbringing to separateness is bring up such child, who knows behave and do a right things and this child do the right things also then, when the parents do not wath or inspect him.

Parents bring up the child to discipline by arranging of his life style. We arrange the life of children by application of daily routine, which has to mark by sensibleness, regularity and precision. In each family the child will have other system, the child´s time will not be the same and also his obligation will be different. This system is necessary and also respekt of all family members is necessary.

The upbringing in family has to be build up on the regard to authority. Little child needs a example for his actions. The example of child should be parents. The authority can not be build up on love and goodness, but authority have to spring from the life and from the work of their parents and also from their situation in the company. The senior child also has to have the respect to the authority.

The authority have to be incorporate. The second tudor of child mustn’t permit to child the things which the first tudor forbades. In the preschool age the steadfastness upgrows in practise. Tendency to levity and changing of toys, which was before noticed, this tendency in the older school age wane. The child more steady addict to the certain activity which attracts him.

Isn’t possible, that parents or teachers rationalization or represent each their requirement or signal. It would be just waste of time to represent each requirement or signal, sometimes it would be also purposeless, because a little child doesn’t know make a sense of logical reasons of certain term yet. Prodigious import of authority of parents or another tutor is , that children, whose parents have authority, children generally do not observe expedience or inexpediency of certain request of their parents. Sometimes an ability to know the parents logical request is necessary because - it gives some warrant of trust for children.

Correct parential authority has extra value for successful upbringing. Also it is the same about the authority of other tutors. Parents usually understand the authority right but they do not know how they can obtain authority.

Dr. Josef Prchal (upbringing of children) inducts a few styles , how parents try to obtain authority.

1. He recalls inapt authority which is based on downtrodden, which manifest from wrong relationship of parents to children. Parents or tutors have claimed authority by shout, threat and fight for each trifle. Their terror evokes atmosphere of a fear, a uncertainty, a horror. Later this authority can display in temperamentally limitations and negative properties of those children. Children of those parents fear and in every possible way they want to offset the punishment, therefore they begin ambages very early. Those children tell lies and cheat parents. Offhand, ruthless people can grow up from those children. They will want to vindicate all life because of their sad childhood.

2. Other unsuitable style of obtaining the authority or the treatment is authority base upon distance. This way is the most frequently in the family of intellectuals. Those parents (sometimes father, sometimes mother, sometimes both of them) have for their children little time, they are with them only rarely .Children are inconsiderable because of the parents employment and interest of their job, therefore parents do not deal with their children. Grandmother or other person take care about them. Parents isolate themself in their workroom and take care about their interests, and therefore parents make environment which is typical for incomplete family with all of unfavorable implications.

3.Also very unsuitable is authority base upon a conceit, which is more harmful than antecedent parential authority. In the world there are also parents who fight for authority. They “rant” and magnify by their objective or think out success, preferences, of their consequence, beauty, stature, goods or public state. They bring up from their children vainglorious patronizing. Those children will talk up about their parents as about an abnormal people. Those children usually underestimate the youngest children. You can persuade about it, when you will listen small “whopper” , who “stately” represents his parents.

4. Unsuitable style obtaining authority is when their parents build up on nicety. Parents with nicety think that they have to have true at all events. Those parents think that in every word, which they say, it have to be law for their children. They do not see and do not registrate their children, their interests, sweets, sorrows and their

requisites. Parents of those children do not strove to understand their children. Those parents bureaucraticaly enforce their dominance and they are satisfy with formal result. When their child object to something their parents said him : “I have said, and it is valid!“, or “Haven’t you heard?!”

5.Some parents take seriously, each trifle. They utilize everything, because they want to castigate and reproach their children. They think, that in this is the rest of their tutorial sending. Those parents come out from principle, that they are inerrable. Children will hate sententiousness soon and sermonizing gastigation of their parents will negatively affect them.

6. Authority builds on overdraw love and goodness is ill. This authority is very augmented and leads to growing of sentimentalism. Children have to make everything from love and also they parents prove them love everywhere. Those parents tenderly title them, and also they still caress with them. Children hate their love, and they find out that they can jilt their parents. Those children know , when they will affect the love to parents it suffice, because they obtain advantages so. This authority leads to facileness, simulation and egoism and that is why it is dangerous type of parential authority.

7. Parents try to obtain submission of their children by goodness and facility. Tolerate them everything and take them everything, what they want. It is the impractical type of authority, therefore parents should avoid from it . Children remark situation soon and they start to command their parents and parents will adapt them.

8.Very wrong authority is build on bribery. Parents buy submission of their children with promises and presents (when you will be good you will go to the cinema or we will get you a bicycle).It is all right when parents sometimes reward their children for a good work or for excellent achievement. Rewarding of children for things which are their charge is not good.

9.Here are some parents who build up the authority on the friendship(they allow children to address them by baptism name).

10.Other parents undermine their authority, because in relation to children they are not homogeneous - one is strict another is clement, or one parent mandate something and another parent invalidats this mandate. Children sense it. Than children make use of it. They ambages it. Those things contortive their characters.

11.Parents can obtain the right authority by exemplary life, by true-hearted relation to children, also by relative respect and trust of each other. Parents, who respect laws of other people and accept hierarchy of sociable and ethical values. They live according it. Only those parents, whose language consists with facts, know upkeep trust and love of their children also they have natural parential authority, which results from exemplary life, industry and from good relation to all sociable values. Late their lifestyle can by shown on their children.