Parents and childs
The child in the preschool age knows commands and instructions of his familiar environment or of his kindergarden. He knows what he can do and he knows what is his obligation. Mentaly normal child usually manages with it. The child who has absolved the kindergarden, knows how to get to the companies of the people of the same age without problems. The kindergarden role is to help the children to get to companies without any problems. Psychical and social maturity of the child depends on his separateness. His separateness is his ability to capture as a fully-fledged member and he knows capture his place in school colectiveand also in company of the people of the same age. He also knows vindicates his laws. Those things depend on his preschool upbringing in his environment. We remind in the previous chapters, that o lot of mistakes at upbringing of child to separeteness make their parents, because their parens are shy, timid, abashedly, meticulous. Those parents bring up instead of ambitious and self-employed child, they bring up fearful and abashedly child, the child same as they are.
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Fear of child originates in unwaited or strong sensual stimulus. The child terrify when a dog suddenly yaps, when you surprisingly toss him up, when he suddenly hears the shoot or thunder, when somebody give a cry on him very quickly or when somebody terrify him. The child terrify when his mother is screaming on him or when his mother threatens him that she gives him to gypsys. The fear is not inherit, but the fear originates from the incorrect upbringing. It is the learned fear. The children fear from dark and storm when they feel out the fear from their parents. Disturbance of mother before inoculation of her child is transmited on this child and also whed mother said that it will not hurt the child’s fear is increasing. When the doctor stings the injection to the child and the child suddenly stop crying- it is the mark that he was terror strickened by vision of horror, which his mother involuntary suggest him. Therefore you have to scape from the scaring of the child.
Very inept punishment is to close the child to the dark room or shut out him to home. Also very inept punishment is to lock away of his mother to think that she leaves him. Those punishments damage the mental balance of the child and also those punishments damage his psychic. How we can despoil the child of fearfulness? At first we have to surround this child with atmosphere of serenity and safety, which results from his situation. Serenely, without vexation and without scream we satisfy him that he is in safety. At the same time we effort him how :to oversleep, to dress,to wash and also other activities and this everything he must do alone.Child that puts himself on,shuffles,washes,knows how to eat and everything connects whit this without any help,can feel more sure and have higher immunity.Seperatness forms conditions for obtaining psychical balance and feeling of security.Skittishness of child we can overrun also when we intergrated him into the collective of other children.Fearful child feel in more sure and earlier undertake himself at intercommunication with young children as among the people of the same age.
If we want to that child does not to afraid of anything,he must not see the adults to afraid of something. When the child fears of the certain animal, for example of dog, at first we have to ident the child with this animal. We show him this animal on picture and then at first we will show him small lively dog. We stroke this dog then we permit to storke this dog to child and we also permit to the child to play with this dog. According to this, we can liquidate everyone’s fear from the certain think.
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