Gentowa

If you like one child more than another,it can not happen that child obtain privileged position in family.Also other children are Yours,therefore they also merit the same style of attendance and the same standard of love.

-Adolescent compares himself with adults,he feels his minus-valuable,therefore he expresses effort how to equal to adults and in this way they supply their shortcomings.

-He wants to impose his surroundings as adults,therefore he imitates to adults at everything and that not only in narrow way but also in gap-so,how he sees it round himself.

-He likes interfere into the discussion of adults and he speaks one-side bold statements and immature inferences.

-He teaches and carriages younger siblings with favor.

-He bears hard when he has to ask to parents if he can go to the cinema or on walk.

-He reacts excessively and incommensurate on punishment which evokes the conflict.

-He is cheeky there through he sometimes defends and sometimes also attacks.

-If adolescent has in front of eyes good specimens,nice examples in behavior,practiced and in sham,he vindicates good qualities,he creates well intents and attitudes to work,to people and with his upbringing there are not any troubles.

-Adolescents living sundry crises and they have to align with it with help of adults.

-Success can give rise to maximation, bad success to realization of own deficiency and diffidence to his abilities.

-If adolescent presumes that somebody do an injustice to him,he answers by bellicosity and fighting posture.

The most of conflicts among adolescents and their environs rise when they do not respect them,underestimate them or to flout them and spheric him seriously.In the time of adolescence usually is time to decide about future of adolescents and about his coming job.At this stage he still has not well-marked interests,settled imaginings,there through he will be,there is also missing social know-hows,whole personality is changed therefore decision is difficult.Therefore adolescent needs help pf parents and others attempt people that he could find right decision.

It is possible to say that the period of puberty is lived by almost each children without any complications,when parents and educators form convenient environs in which adolescents will be realize themselves,they will have ability to achieve,where they can see concord what their parents and educators resound and what they apply from them,and also the evidence that they hold this and they live and behave according this.If parents remark pubertal changes which their child supersede in good time and they reasonably change their attendance whit him,they do not afraid of any problems,it is liable that child overcomes puberty without troubles and complications

Manipulation with the adolescent is not easy. Patience is very necessary in this time. It is very necessary from the parential site also their self-control, balance and clementy is very important.

-Boys and girls starve for,that adults respect and treat them as equivalent.They need the environment that is rich of love,instead of the injuctions and hard requires there should be kidness and friendly represent.Parents receive the authority by personal example and suitable and sincere behaviour:

Each positive new favour the parents or the educators should take note,each stimulus or idea of adolescents is necessary to register and to solve and to motivate.And after all,this,what is negative it is already advisable in embryo paralyse.Teachers should know that adolescents,at this time,underestimate specific filling of everyday offices and they yearn after the heroical or remarkable actions.Never the abuse or the derision do not run off so destructive and it does not make so many claims on psychic.

We can help to adolescents children to trace the destination which is suitable their abilities and possibilities,we motivate their actions,that they reach this destination,that their will confirms accordingly to the size of the destination.At the same time we take care that child knows whatis waiting for him in the future,what refill will has his profession.We wil not do enough for yours children,if we will not cultivate the desire always go to next and above,in them,if we will non-stationary certitude that money which are important are not the uppermost value.

Very good is when the parents think that their children are peer friens. It is very important and good thing what they can do. Very important thinf is the conversation between parents and children about things what the children should do or what important things they do not do. You can abolish the friendship to the children when you will try to lightly dictate, or also when you will try to order. Very bad think is also the authoritative direct because of this the parents can abolish the friendship of their children. For some parents is easier to talk with their adolescent children straight about the questions of sex or is easier for some parents have the friendship with their children. The half-way closeness of interests of mother and daughter or the father and son is very important. The parents frequently think that they are the bigger friends that in the fact are. Some parents think and speak that they can speak with their children about everything. When the conversation between the parents and their children goes to the secrets or details the parents can lost the sincerity of children and suddenly is after conversation. Never at the conversation with children or in other situations you do not invoke to parental authority.Just only one incident,when you can say:”Do not talk with me like that!”,is just then,if children are impolite or if you must take short them because of their vulgariy.You permit every time to adolescents ,that they could opine their own opinions,which they think about and you realize,that on application your own opinios and requests you need another arguments as slap.You never invoke children,let them to tell whatever!If they say true,you should approve it,if they mislead,you prove it them and introduce them on the right standard,but in such way,so as you do not to insult their self-satisfaction or myself-feel.About squabbles with children there sometimes originate also more seriousl disagreements,but you never dissallow that it spread more seriously.You never dislike viciousness at children but neither at yourself.You do not insult!You never chastise in warm blood,you always keep your resolution ripe for a while. If you punish the child for a thing,then you be consistent if another child had done the same.

The second the most important period of adolescence is the period of puberty. This period supersede the both of sexes: boys and girls.

- The period of girl’s puberty begins at the age of 11-13 years and the period of boy’s buberty begins at the age of 14-16 years.

- Boys became the men after ending of pubertal development, girls became women and both of them are able of repetition. These changes are connect with certain changes in behaviour, in practis and sharm of individuals which outdoing puberty.

-Some time certain mentally childishness may still manifest which is in contradiction with physical forwardness, however do not keep this up.

The bankrupt´s estate of puberty is maturing of hormonal system which is controled by hypophysis (cerebral underslung). It is going mainly about sex up gland, cutwater gland and up-kidney.

-Girls begin puberty when the first menstruation is appearanced, boys at the stage of spermatogenesis.

The period of puberty is marketly manifested at adolescent young people in the spiritual and sensual areas.

-It is the time of the quickest and the stormiest changes.

-Spurt growth claims rasing food-intake and more sleep.

-Adolescent manifest himself by drowe unwieldiness and large burdensomeness.

-At this time the adolescents temporary ward themselves off from outside world,they turn their remark to own emotional experiences and to their internal world,they centre themselves at each other and to their personne.

-Upgrow aspiration for separatness and for labour at self-realization,also self-assurance is rising but there are missing know-hows and abilities how to objectively and without fear of favour evaluate matter and situations.

-Criticalness of young people upgrow at the time of puberty.They want to choose new authority alone,which could retrieve actual authority of adults mainly the authority of their parents.

-Adolescents at the time of puberty meditate at themselves,about their chances,about perspectives into the future,about their conflicts and about their built in the company.

-They are looking for new attributes in the company,in themselves,they try to more perfectly know themselfs and their place in family,at school and at their environment.

-They desire for adventures and heroical actions,they like reading detective story and crime stories.

-From the aspiration after heroism,adolescents are able to make criminal action.

-Some adolescents at this stage manifest adolescence by jactation,extravagant spending,booking or doing something that would pick them up in eyes of their friends.

-Emotional living is deepened but in it manifests specific unsteadiness and moodiness.

-Emotional tenor of adolescents lead to manifestation of artistic creativity,they write poems,diaries,they dream about beautiful future in the world of their ideas.

-At this stage they enclose tenderest friendship “deadly struggle”.

When we can bring up the child to separateness? Still. We have to bring up the child to separateness from the childhood, through preschool age and school age, during puberty to the adult age. The most important is the preschool age upbringing. During the puberty the child has the desire for separateness and self-realization. The child in puberty wants to shows that he is adult and also he wants the respect.

Self-education relates with the upbringing to separateness. The self-education needs the intelligence, strong will, discipline, self-seriousness and self-renunciation. The self-education also needs respect of laws and objectively appraisal of own personality. Also the correct presumption of own properties and possibilities is connected with self-education. The self-education connects with appreciation of yourself and also with appreciation of your own mistakes and limitations. Sincere labour gets rid of the mistakes and wants to be better and ideal person is also connected with self-education. Every person knows his limitations and mistakes by comparing of actions of other people with their own. Serious element of self education is naturaly ambition, which affects on behaviour. Naturaly ambition incites to high performance and directs mentality of individual. This individual anxious for self-improvement. Self-education needs adoption of hierarchy and living destination of individual. This individual has to voluntary save the restrictions, which are needful for realization of living destination and also those restrictions underlie the change of the individual’s character and temperament. Fight with own naturalism is always the most difficult. Somebody who wins on itself by steady will and self-control, he is saved in the life and he achieves success. Those people, who counts on themselves, they trusts only themself and their perform the brave job only for their favor, but also the favor of the communities they refer among their constructors. But it also needs still learning,checking their own experiences and always ahead and self-education.

Preadolescent period

Preadolescent is the preparatory phase on changes, which everyone supersedes in puberty.

- The children signally grows to length (the long bones grow extremely swift) and they show also another physical growth changes.

- Growth and psychical changes are extremely manifested by balance of mind or spiritual unrest.

- Children try to catch each other, climbed on trees, they scream on each other, they are noisy and they need to remove their superfluous energy. They make a lot of bad things because they desire for adventures. They do not think about the implications of their action.

- The boys vaunt among each other. They want to show their brave in front of girls, because the boys minimize and mortify the girls.

-Girls notice boys, yet. But they often respond only with arcane titter or they expressively manifest enmity.

-At this time of children already begin remark turn upon yourself,be conscious of themselfs,and at the same time they loose their safety step by step,they become shy and timid.

-In preadolescent time they need emotional understanding at more standard way,spiritual support,they need person who to they can fully trust. When the parent non-performance their expectation,they start to unstick from him,authority of adults decays,in the first place the authority of their own parents,because they think that

parents do not understand them and in the emotional regions they unsatisfying them.At this time,parents should understand,that the development of self-assurance of their children is natural and also their desire for separateness.

-Good-fellowship has for child th highes value.It is based on labour about common interests,about common desire for adventures,about labour how to resolve attractive secrets of life and love for certain games,hobbies(collecting of something) and about undertaking.In front of friends,childrens express theri opinions,feelings and guess-work openly and daringly.Faithfulness stars as the highest value of friendship,manifestatives in solidarity,what can be sometimes shown as protection of deliquent(”Friend unharmed a friend!”).

-In preadolescent,children do not feel as children, therefore they refuse obedience and they express dissatisfaction,when parents attend them like before.

-Their self-assurance upgrows,they find themselves,they let know themselves as independent personality,they deny things as they are given,they want to apply own will and they want to rule themselves according to the will.They judge parents and teachers,they criticize their observance and behaviour.They deny e.g. to walk with them on walk,they will not that parents tend them on train or to the bus on school trip,or when they go common recreation.When parents do not register these changes of preadolescent development and spheric on consciousness them and they exact obedience of child with “hard hand”,conflicts originate. Each injuction acts as inhibition but at the same time it provokes the children and also incite to stubbornness.

- The period of prepuberty is the start of freeing from the familiar relation. It is also the preparing for independence of child. In this time the parents shouldn’t use the commands as: ” Go to the shop!” , ” Wash the dinnerware!” . When the mother uses instead of commands design for the child then the child obeys earlier. When the child have ability to choose in design then he make this what he thinks that is good or he makes what involves with the parents design ( for example, “Please, can you go to the shop?”).

- in this time the child is very sensitive on underfoot, mortification, ironize or mockery. He is very emotionally vulnerable, because his self-assurance develops and steadies. Objective, calm and friendly conversation, which we give the trust to child and which we express gravity towards him. The trust is the warranty of good results. The child must feel, that he has the patron in you. He must feet that he can said you his secrets.

- Moods of child frequently changes. The child is more concentrated on his own experiences and hobbies. His interests start to differentiate.Sometimes he shows the ill self-assurance, self-satisfaction or arrogance, he also shows the ambiton to fix the respect on him. He has kookie dresing and also he starts to smoke very early.

- Also the behaviour is frequently changed. At first place is emotional aspect ( the easy snappishness, dilemma, indeterminateness at punishments). The parents have to have the very sensitive behaviour to those canges of their children. They have to be tactful, tact and understanding.

- In this time the child againsts authority therefore the parents should change the relation to the child. The parents should become the friends of the child. Friendship againsts the resistance of the child. This friendship also weaken the conflicting policy and because of this the parents have still the authority. Friendship and understanding is not weakness from the side of parents. The child always has to see the authority in his parents.Parential reasoning “no” has to be critical for the child.

-At puberty adolescents are very critical towards adults,each action of adult they evaluate morally and criticize,they are severe to other but they are indulgently towards themselve.

- The children want to get out from the influence of their parents because the children desire for separateness. They expressed it by resistance and revolt, also by negative way and asocia talk.

- All temperamentally lines are expressed more expressive and more distinctly at puberty. But those temperamentally lines are more negative. That is why in this time between parents and children are more conflics.

- Adolescents yearn, that the adults handling with them as with adults. When the parents do not do it the conflicts start. Adolescent thinks that nobody understand him and also he think that the parents and other people do not understand him. The adolescent yearn about something new or remarkable or somethig extra, but usually he do not know what he want.

- When somebody comments him then he is very sensitive and untouchable, he is also reacts very inplusively but often he reacts aggressively.

When the parents want to break down the resistance of the adolescent by shouting or fight, it will be very bad thing what they will do. When the parents use the shout and fight it leads the adolescent to the wryness, to negative actions, to telling lies, to moral hatred or to abashedness, also it leads to the lack of iniciative and it origins the complex of minus-valuables.

- The adolescents are changed also from the sensual site. They grows up very quickly, their secondarily sexual symbols develop, the muscles increase and girls have more fat.

- The adolescents have the strong will. They are more tired from sensual and psychic things. They also quickly change their temper and they underlie the new experiences and effects.

- The adolescent in puberty changes the relation to the other sexes. The boys and girls yearn for relative converge, which is not easy, because the boys have fear from their own imperfection, ineffectualness and also they fear from the mockery. That is why the group of boys idolize only one girl or the group of girls idolize the famous sportmen, songer or showmen. Later the individual relations get on. In this individual relations the adolescent idealizes, the adolescent thinks that his girl or her boy is ideal.

- The young people think that the appearance of the other people is everything. This is the fact that their self-assurance remains. The parents already needn‘t to warn them in the dressing.

- The girls watch themselves near the mirror, they study their expression of their face. They valuate their figure and gracefulness of their motions and they exercise themselves in the effective smile.

- The boys relatively gladly watch themselves in mirror.

- Friendship in this time in the period of puberty is expressed by strong emotional relation. The true-heartedness is very important in this age. The adolescent want to aim to retain the friendship. He is able to disturb commands of his parents. That is why is very important with whom has this adolescent relationship.